Wedding Stress: The Hardest week so far.

  THIS IS THE SECOND VERSION OF THIS POST, MY COMPUTER FROZE AND DELETED EVERYTHING I HAD ORIGINALLY! YOU WANNA TALK ABOUT CONTINUED STRESS, WELL HERE IT IS!

  I am a “GET IT DONE” type of person. When I am in this headspace I like to GO GO GO. I also have tried and failed at dealing with my impatience, something I am constantly working on. So when I am in this mode and I have to cross bumps in the road that set me back… well… it does not sit well. With all of the unexpected situations that have continued to happen over the past couple of weeks I have been unable to check off anything from my never ending BRIDAL to-do-list. For example the weekend that I was in the Hospital, we all know that story, I was supposed to visit different Florists around the Augusta area for pricing and a time for an appointment. ( If you want to know about my Hospital Experience Pt. 1 &2  go to 50 Shades Blog page) Unfortunately that did not happen. So please enjoy my rant about my STRESSFUL couple of weeks!

  I think I handle stress pretty well. I just need to vent and get it off of my chest and then I go get what needs to be done completed and move on. Well when I tried to check the florist off of my list I got put in the Hospital. I guess this is when my list began to get off of the schedule that I have planned. I was not able to do it the following weekend either because I attended the Augusta Bridal Expo (to read that fun story just click the back button) and I had other things I needed to get done that weekend, including RELAX! I have been extremely busy the past couple of weeks including things dealing with my job. Thankfully this past weekend (FEB 8th)  I was able to go to the Florist and get some prices as well as set up an appointment for me to find the perfect bouquets and accent flowers. I have FINALLY checked this off of my list!

THE NEXT TWO THINGS I AM RELAYING WERE BOTH MY FAULT! I TAKE FULL RESPONISBILITY SO DO NOT THINK I AM COMPLAING, I AM TELLING A STORY WHILE RANTING / VENTING TO YOU GUYS!

  NEXT… Brandon and I have been having a hard time coming up with a Wedding hashtag that fits our relationship story and our wedding perfectly. I decided to spend $30 to get 5 professionally written hashtags, I was like why not! This is where I F***ed up! I misspelled my name while I was typing in the email address that the phrases were supposed to be sent to. The plan I payed for also stated that I would get my hashtags in 24 hours after I ordered them. The next day while I was at work I began to get really excited about it and went back and looked at the screenshot of the confirmation that I had taken. This is where I realized I messed up. I proceeded to contact the Hashtag company and let them know what had happened. The next day came and I still had not heard anything. Now I was not expecting to get them within that 24 hour window because I screwed up, but what I was expecting was at least an email reply acknowledging the problem and letting me know they were working on it. So that night I sent in another message. The weekend came and I am sitting with my friend and I am telling her what happened. I try to find another way of contact because it has been 3 days and I have heard absolutely nothing. I find an email and I tell them again what happened and that it has been 48 hours since I sent in the problem and asked for a solution. FAST FORWARD… I get a forwarded email from them with my 5 hashtags. A FORWARDED email, really! There was no personal message with it, no since of customer service! Ya, I messed up, but a FORWARDED email! And the Hashtags were not even that good, the last one I liked, but nothing that was worth $30!

  ANYWAY… I have been receiving a lot of emails about Valentine’s Day deals that are going on. One of which was from Shutterfly. I love Shutterfly! So I decided to go ahead and order wedding Invitations because I could get them out of the way and cheaper. I made two templates of the same invites because I could not figure out how to get back into the original one (I know blonde moment at its finest, & it was actually pretty easy to find it) Later that night I show Brandon what I came up with and he said they looked nice and gave me the go ahead to order them, so I did. Three days later they get delivered and I open them up and realize that what I wanted at the bottom of the invites was not there. I F***ed up again! I go to my app and that is how I figured out I ordered the wrong template. I show Brandon and he tells me it is not a big deal, they look great. (He was also on his game at this time) I somewhat agreed, they weren’t perfectly what I wanted, but they were still really nice. I let it go! ( I also did not want to have to go through the process of getting it fixed) This is a great example of how my impatience can get the best of me. Over the weekend Brandon relays to me that his middle name was spelled wrong on the invites. MY FACE DROPPED! I was so upset. (not to mention everything else that I was dealing with at the time) Brandon tried to convince me that it was fine and it wasn’t a big deal. I mean it was only missing one L at the end of his middle name (Marshall) but I wanted everything to be perfect! I mean I only plan on getting married once and I don’t want to have regrets after it is all over. So I decided to get them fixed. I spent pretty much that entire day trying to figure out how to get new invites sent to me without having to pay for the entire thing over again! Once again, I love Shutterfly! These people are amazing, not only did they not be like “This idiot” they let me order a whole new stock for only $10 (shipping) and they were very nice about it and made sure that I was taken care of even though the entire situation was my fault! I had gone through 4 different representatives because I kept getting disconnected and I had to wait for a while and when I tried to get the credits at checkout, they would not apply. Through all of that each person I spoke with was amazing! So thank you Shutterfly for being the best that you can possibly be!

I AM NOT BASHING THE LOVE OF MY LIFE IN THIS SECTION I AM TELLING YOU WHAT HAPPENED, I LOVE HIM WITH ALL OF MY HEART, BUT SOMETIMES OUR PERSONALITIES DO NOT FIT WELL TOGETHER LOL.

  LASTLY… Our wedding guest list and trying to get them mailed out by the allotted time they needed to be sent out.  I made my Wedding list back in November and had asked Brandon to do the same. It is now mid February and Brandon still had not made his list. This made me very anxious! Brandon is a very go with the flow type of person and has an attitude like “It will get done when it gets done” I AM NOT LIKE THAT! When it comes to certain things I really do not care and even if I do I usually let it go because it usually isn’t a big deal. But this is our WEDDING!  Yes, I reminded him PLENTY of times ( by plenty I mean like twice a week over the past month) At first I was like ohh well he will get it done when it comes closer to time. So he told me he did get it done last week, but when it came time to go over it, he had LOST IT! Sooo… I was like okay, that is fine we will just finish it tonight (that was Sunday/FEB 9th) it never got done. Monday morning I made a list of people who I thought would want to come to our nuptials from his family and friends. I sent him the list and asked him to look over it and let me know who I missed. He gave me a few more names and then assumed I was mad at him. Which I was not. I was frustrated and stressed and not having a good day. (I was also dealing with a large workload at the same time) The day went on and his mom was thankfully being a great help with all of this by sending me everyone’s address’s. (Thank you MOM)

  At this point I was pretty much caught up, I just needed to get everything organized and in the correct places. I had just finished enveloping (which I picked up the same day I went & spoke to the florist) addressing (thanks again MOM) and stamping (I picked up the day before and had enveloped, addressed, and stamped my side of the guest list) the rest of the GUESTS. Brandon came home then, looked at my face, immediately sat down on the bed, and asked what he could do. Pretty much the rest of the night we talked about the week and how I was feeling and I got acknowledgment for that and the love and support that I needed. I have just had a lot of things going on and I guess having everything come down at me at once just tipped me over the edge. I was very tense and extremely stressed. I needed to take a deep breath, relax, and have a good cry. (Which BTW for some reason I could not cry! Like I kept telling myself to let it out, get it out, but it would not happen.) Brandon came home and we just held each other for awhile after I told him that I was feeling pretty much alone in the wedding planning process and I felt like he did not care (Which is not the case, he is a man & men don’t really express excitement for this kind of stuff like woman do) this is when silent hot tears came down my face. I was embarrassed and did not want him to see, so every time he tried to pull forward I would pull him back so he couldn’t see my face. (PATHETIC)

  I went to bed feeling 10xs better than when I woke up! I am extremely lucky to have a man that acknowledges my feelings and makes an effort to always try and fix them when there is something wrong. (He kept saying “Where did my Shayna go?” “Is my Shayna back now?”) Ladies, even if you are not planning a Wedding and you are just dealing with everyday STRESS, please find someone to talk to! Just to rant and vent and get it off of your chest. It is not healthy to leave that stuff built up inside, at the end of the day you are going to feel similar to the way I did. Overwhelmed and alone. No one should have to feel that way. Talk to a wall (or yourself) cry and try not to be Impatient. ( I know I have a big problem with that)

  Thanks for reading all about my stressful couple of weeks! Sorry if it was a little long or if you took it as me complaining the whole time lol.

P.S.  THERE WAS ANOTHER WHOLE SITUATION THAT REALLY REALLY GOT TO ME AND I WAS NOT HAPPY WITH, BUT I AM NOT GOING TO TELL THAT LITTLE STORY BECAUSE I WOULD RATHER NOT HAVE EVERYONE TRYING TO SCRAMMBLE AROUND TRYING TO FIND IT, WHICH IN TURN WILL MAKE ME FEEL HORRIBLE. SPOILER IT IS ABOUT MY WEDDING DRESS.